Thursday, 26 June 2014

My orgasmic meditation experience

A few months ago, I was invited to try an orgasmic meditation class.

I didn't really know what to expect.  I was only told: I'd learn more about the practice, there would be demo, and an optional practical session. When I arrived, the room was buzzing with about forty people: a female entrepreneur, twenty-something couples, fifty-year old hippies, and plenty of straight-laced business men.

What did we all have in common?
Not much.
Other than a desire to learn more about orgasm.

The experience was surprising. Unnerving. Intense. But incredible. I'm not going to go into LOADS of detail because everyone has a very unique reaction to the course - but for me, it was so powerful that it felt like something has been permanently unlocked. Something I didn't even know was there.

In the morning we learnt about the practice of OM - essentially, someone precisely strokes a woman's clitoris for 15 minutes (specifics, here). We learnt a bit about the biology - particularly the difference between the rational side of your brain v the emotional, limbic side. We learnt about how to live from your desire, how to understand female pleasure, how to become more sensual.



Then came the demo.

I tried SO hard to engage with what I was seeing. I could witness the pleasure but I couldn't get out of my head - all I could do was think how weird it was to watch someone stroke another person's clit in front of 40 people.

After the demo, we were invited to 'share a frame' (basically, reflecting on how the demo made us feel). Some people said it made them feel uncomfortable or aroused. But that's not really how you feel. It's how you think you feel. The group then started to get the idea. People started to say "I feel hot", "My legs feel tingly", "I'm short of breath", "my penis is stiffening"..

I started to put my hand up to say "I didn't feel anything at all" when all of a sudden I was overwhelmed with emotion - panic, fear, embarrassment, joy, hysteria, excitement. I felt everything at once. I instinctively put my hand down. But they saw me, and asked me to share my frame. I thought I could suppress it, control my emotions, I have done all my life, but out of nowhere, I exploded into tears.

Everyone looked shocked, but the staff knew exactly what to do. One came over and simply put her hand on my shoulder. She wanted to reassure me that she was simply... there. I was safe. I could cry. I could share my emotions. Even if I was in a room with a bunch of strangers.

After much incoherent, confused, sobbing it was soon explained to me that I was trying to analyse what I was seeing. I was suppressing the emotional connection my brain was trying to make by rationalising it all. But as soon as I went to speak (and I wasn't concentrating on logically assessing everything), the emotion bubbled up and exploded out my face.

You might think that is terrifying. Embarrassing. Horrifying. But it was liberating.

Because it helped me to realise: that's exactly what us women do during sex - we THINK. Does he like this? Is this any good? Can he see my cellulite? Fuck I forgot to buy kidney beans.

And ever since then, I've just felt switched on the entire time. I live through desire. And not sexual desire. I just want to touch everything. That textured wallpaper, that guy's beard, that dog's tail. I'm like a child discovering everything anew. Even as I write this and relive that moment my body feels fizzy. LITERALLY FIZZY, GUYS.

The impact this has had on me is insane. And I encourage you all to experience OM at least once in your life.
You might hate it, you might love it - regardless, you will feel something.
My orgasmic meditation experience

Tuesday, 20 May 2014

Why facial hair's the best thing to happen to a man's face

I can't believe we even need to debate this. I mean HONESTLY. Just look at these fine facial hair specimens. It's just pure manliness oozing from the pores.



I thought everyone (in their right fucking mind) shared my facial hair fetish (pogonophilia FYI), until a friend told me that his girlfriend didn't like it SO HE SHAVED IT OFF. A crime against male sexuality. Probably.

So let's build a case as to why you should let your face flourish and grow that goddamn beard.

They are proven to be more sexy

Not by me, by ACTUAL SCIENCE.

Facial hair strongly influences people's judgement of men's socio-sexual attributes. FACT. Research shows that women find men with heavy stubble the most attractive (compared to clean shaven etc), and men with beards are perceived to be healthier and better dad-material.


They have a history of being bad ass

In the Middle Ages, if a dude touched another dude's beard it was legit grounds to start a duel. 

Beards are dangerous in battle because you could grab onto them - so bearded warriors were considered more legendary than all the other clean-shaven mama's boys out there.


They represent good health

Shut up about cleanliness or hygiene.
Juuuuust zip it.
Facial hair helps regulate body temperature, reduces harmful UV exposure by up to 95%, and signals a healthy immune system.

They have a history of being wise and intelligent...

Think Sophocles, Abraham Lincoln, Shakespeare, Karl Marx, Hemingway, Jesus Christ, Einstein, Colonel Sanders, Father Christmas, Tom Selleck....


They signal higher social status

People perceive bearded men to have a "high-ranking social position and command respect over other men in the community". AND, in 2004, a study showed that senior academic professors at UK universities were bearded, in comparison to junior researchers and lecturers who were mostly clean-shaven.

They can turn dweebs into Gods...



...But they are not all created equal



There are many different styles...

...But clean-shaven guys only get one look - their face.



They're cheaper

Sick of paying for Roger Federer, Tiger Woods and Thierry Henry's lifestyles? Then stop buying fucking razors and let that bush grow straight outta your face. No rashes. Not cuts. Only thing you'll have to worry about is managing the multitude of sexual advances about to come your way #KERCHIIING


In conclusion...

Haters gonna hate but science proves that facial hair is sexy so there.

I mean it.







Why facial hair's the best thing to happen to a man's face

Friday, 9 May 2014

Watch: Dutch girl group try to sing whilst having an orgasm

Dutch girl-band ADAM have to be my new all-time favourite group - not because their EDM is next level, but because their orgasm faces are.



For their new music video, the brave ADAM ladies were filmed trying to carry on singing whilst having an orgasm. That's right. Singing with a vibrator attached to your clit. You can even hear the toys.

ANYWAY.
You can start to see flickers of pleasure right at the beginning of the song.
It's a thing of beauty.Watch the whole video.
Even if we do all know how it ends.


(Sorry about the video size - can't figure out how to embed it properly and I'm tired, man. Leave me alone)
Watch: Dutch girl group try to sing whilst having an orgasm

Thursday, 24 April 2014

online dating and the freaks of Internet Land

If you've tried online dating (and you have a vagina), I'm sure you'll have experienced the Desperate Horny Man's scatter gun approach: throw enough genital-related requests at the women on these sites/apps and something's gotta stick.

These men sit behind the safety of their computer, where they can be pervy and disgusting to women without getting punched/slapped/a drink thrown on them in real-life. Doesn't matter what the woman's looking for, who she is, what she's about - anything goes.

For the most-part, it's relatively amusing - but soon it grows tiresome and actually very insulting. No matter what you're looking for online (a relationship or even a non-creepy casual hook-up), you do not deserve to receive perverse and unsolicited messages from the freaks of Internet Land.

So I was really excited when I came across this little project by Boston-based artist, Anna Gensler. She decided to give Internet Dating Creeps a taste of their own medicine - anyone who was rude and derogatory to her on OKCupid was drawn "sad-naked" with tiny little willies. Follow her on Instagram to see them all.

Bloody brilliant.


Gensler: "when someone does something I think is rude, I always want to give them a taste of their own medicine. I’m an artist, and I try to use art as my weapon, even though that sounds so lame"



Gensler: "I feel like the guys who are really creepy don’t even bother to read my profile at all. They’re just like, “This girl has two arms and two legs.”





Gensler:"I started doodling how I would imagine them naked … except sad-naked. It was the most immature thing I could think of, because their pickup lines are the most juvenile, basic things, but also still oddly offensive."





Gensler: "I put a warning to guys on there: “I’m going to draw you naked if you send me rude messages,” and linked back to the Instagram."





Gensler: "Some of them get really angry and say a bunch of mean stuff. Some of them get a little bit offended and say, “Why am I so fat? My facial hair doesn’t really look like that. My nipples are smaller than that!”...  But a couple of guys have actually said smart things after I sent it to them. But if you’re smart and seem like a normal person, why are you using opening lines like “I love butt sex”?"

online dating and the freaks of Internet Land

Tuesday, 22 April 2014

REAL #foodporn

Ahh #foodporn, my favourite ever Instagram hashtag for all my foodie (fatty) needs.

Ever wondered what REAL food porn would look like?

No. Me neither.


But for some reason, the perverts at Bold Italic have. They've even put their thoughts into a wee little video for your viewing pleasure. It's actually quite obscene. And a turn on. NO WAIT I'M KIDDING. Definitely NOT turned on right now. Honest.

REAL #foodporn