I told the group how I'd bought my best friend her first ever vibrator. And a girl I didn't know blurted out: "but she's got a boyfriend".
Are vibrators suddenly a substitute for a penis?! For a boyfriend? Or does this mean that women who use them actively choose to be boyfriendless? Or struggle to find one?
I was baffled. But later, it dawned on me that perhaps this is where the stigma about sex toys began.
Most women care what people think of them. Maybe some worry that if they have a sex toy it might say something about them. Something bad. Something like:
"Hi, I don't have enough sex, so that's why I have a vibrator"
Oh how wrong.
Toys should be used to enhance your sex life, not stump it. I mean, how can we expect a guy to know how to please us, if we don't even know what works for us?
Toys can be a stress relief, a way to help you get to sleep - one of my toys even doubles up as a massager. You can use them as much or as little as you like. You can use them solo, or with a partner. My first long-term boyfriend even bought me my first Rabbit (and yes, Sam, I still have it)
So ladies, don't be scared of what a vibrator says about you. We should take courage, hold our toys high, and proclaim the truth!
I'll go first:
"Hi. I love sex and everything about it. THAT'S why I have a vibrator"
Now.. Your turn...